Fights are inevitable in any marriage.I think. Hubby and I had one recently.Not very pleasant but definitely an eye-opener for me.
Hubby and I have been together for years now. We’ve been like best friends for years before we got married. But the part which most people find unbelievable is that we never fought with each other in all those years.(Maybe, we’re just angels.. the both of us 🙂 ) We never even had any arguments too.Until a month before our wedding 🙂 See, the change Marriage brings? A month before our wedding, we started arguing about our wedding plans. But after few days, we decided that we won’t let it bother our relationships and the differences disappeared.
And we have not fought after marriage too. Until last week. That’s when we had, what I call our first fight ever. Lasted close to 12 hours and then we were back to normal. 🙂 So, here is all that I learnt in that 12 hours.
- There is no winner / loser in any fight/ argument between couples. Cause the moment you think you win, you lose to your ego.
- There is no right and wrong way to fight. Of course, flying vessels and slamming doors are definitely a no-no.
- It is quite interesting to observe the different approaches both of you take, to express anger.In our case, one takes the silent approach and the other, the sulking approach.
I think that fights can be quite healthy in any marriage if there is a mutual respect for each other. Else, I am not quite sure. What ever be the case, all soon to be married friends of mine… brace yourself for this change.Cause, this is one change that will definitely happen.
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